节目资讯
刊物:空中英语教室
日期:2012-11-08
难易度:Medium
关键字:secure, exposure, backpacking, sacrifice
Hi, friends. Welcome to Studio Classroom Worldwide.
Thanks for joining us today.
My name is Steve.
Well, marriage is definitely one of the biggest decisions you will ever make in
your life.
That's why you need to think twice, and a third time, and even a fourth time
before you and your sweetheart say "I do." Of course,
there are a lot of unknown factors that couples face before they get married.
But there are things couples can do before the wedding that will increase their
chances of having a successful marriage.
Let's get back into the conversation and look at one of those things - take your
time - on page 21.
Should We Get Married?
But there's plenty of time to get married.
There's no need to rush into it.
But I don't want to wait.
I'll feel more secure knowing we've both agreed to stay together for life.
But are you ready to commit to him for life without giving yourself some more
time?
I've had exposure to lots of different things.
I had a serious relationship with someone else in high school.
I also studied abroad for a semester while Tim stayed here.
That's good.
Spending time apart helps you both to grow.
You got married when you were 24, right?
Do you have any regrets?
Hello, friends. Thank you so much for joining us here in the studio.
My name is Kaylah.
My name is Ryan.
Friends, we're back in our VIEWPOINTS article discussing whether or not you
should get married, and if you do, when.
Hmm, the most important part - when.
What is the right time to get married?
Well, we're in the middle of a conversation with Michelle and Kelly.
Now Kelly is thinking about getting married.
Michelle is helping her think through some of the more challenging areas:
about commitment, and not deciding on impulse, and making sure you're prepared,
and you can work together well, you can cooperate.
So let's pick up their conversation with some of these points.
That's right.
Well, friends, remember that getting married is a very important decision
because marriage lasts for the rest of your life.
So think carefully about it.
Now Kelly thinks it's OK to... for her to get married now, but Michelle says you
have plenty of time before you can get married.
That's right.
You have plenty of time to get married.
Now as Ryan said, marriage is a lifetime commitment.
When you say "I do," you don't mean until I'm not having fun anymore.
It means I am committing to you through everything.
So she says you have your whole life to be married.
No, there's no need to rush into it.
But once you're married, you can't be single again.
That's right.
You don't want to rush into marriage.
And if something rushes, that means it moves very quickly toward something.
Usually we use the word "rush" when we're talking about like water, a river
that's moving very quickly will rush.
So you don't want to hurry into getting married because it is a big commitment.
It's a very large decision to make.
She's... and Kelly has another statement about this, right?
Exactly. Kelly says: But I don't want to wait.
I'll feel more secure knowing we've both agreed to stay together for life.
OK. I think we need to look at that first sentence: But I don't want to wait.
That is me.
I... I'm like that in life about... just about everything.
So I know when it comes time for me to make a decision to get married or not, I
will have to slow down and really think about it.
That's right.
But Kaylah, it's... it's more important just not... just waiting.
But here... Kelly says right now, if she gets married soon, she'll feel more
secure. Hmm.
Now "secure" means you're not doubting, you're not worried, and you're confident
in your personal relationships.
So if you're secure in a friendship, that means you feel comfortable that
they're going to support you and not turn on you.
You need to feel secure in your marriage relationships.
But Ryan, I would argue with Kelly here that she should be secure enough in
their relationship to be willing to wait and know that he's not going anywhere.
Exactly.
I think that's a problem, friends, because if you need to get married before you
feel secure,
you're going to be very surprised to find out you probably won't feel any more
safe or secure in marriage.
You should really be secure in your relationship now before you get married.
So Michelle gives Kelly here a question.
Here she says: Are you ready to commit to him for life without giving yourself
some more time?
This is a big commitment.
She's emphasizing "life" here.
This is a lifelong thing.
Mmhm. And when you commit, that means you, of course, have decided to stay and
keep doing something, in this case, remain married.
That's right.
"Before giving yourself more time," that means giving yourself the opportunity
and time to really think about it.
Kelly says: Well, I've had exposure to lots of different things.
OK. When you are exposed or when you have "exposure" to something, that means
that you experience it.
Usually you would have exposure to different things in life, and that will give
you different experiences.
That's right.
And once you've had exposure in these different experiences, you have a
different view of life.
It helps change... it helps you adapt and helps you think with a bigger mind
really.
Yeah, exactly.
And usually, things that you are exposed to might change you a little bit.
Of course, they change the way you see life, so.
Here she said... she says "exposure to some things." And let's see what those
are.
Well, she says I had a serious relationship with someone else in high school.
So she's saying: Well, I've been in another relationship, I don't need to try
again.
Though, how serious can a high school relationship be?
Yeah. That's the problem. It's in high school.
Friends, I don't mean to make fun of you if you are in high school, OK.
But when I was in high school, I thought I was in the most serious relationship
in the world.
And then I realized it really wasn't very serious at all.
But you do need to be careful who you date because aren't your parents from high
school?
My parents did get married, and they started dating in high school.
So, you never know.
So be careful who you date.
No matter how old you are, it's important to... to be serious but to really
think about it.
Be careful.
All right.
Now she says she also studied abroad for a semester while Tim stayed... well, I
think they're in America.
That's right.
So she studied abroad.
She went... she lived overseas, had experiences away from Tim.
Michelle says that's a good thing because spending time apart helps you both to
grow.
OK. So be willing to spend time apart and be secure.
Kelly says: Wait! You got married, Michelle, when you were 24, right?
Hmm, interesting point.
Michelle here is arguing that maybe she's too young, she doesn't have enough
experiences, maybe she's not ready to commit.
But she got married at the same age.
So Kelly is going to ask her a very important question.
She says: Do you have any regrets?
Ooh. Now this word "regrets" is important here because that means something you
wish didn't happen or that you are sorry about.
Oh, I hope there's not any regrets for Michelle.
We'll find out what she has to say after we visit the Chat Room.
Don't rush into this, Louise.
It's a big decision, and you need to think about it a little more.
OK. we'll have to talk about this more later.
Goodbye.
Oh, unbelievable.
Bryan, what's going on?
I couldn't help over hearing your phone conversation.
Well, my niece is thinking about quitting her job and moving to Paris.
Wow! That's a big decision.
Why is she doing that?
She's bored with her job, and she's looking for a change.
I told her she shouldn't rush into this, though.
She needs to stop and think about what she's doing.
I agree.
Rushing into something means deciding to do it too quickly, right?
That's right.
Generally, the word "rush" is negative.
It means trying to do something so fast that you don't do a good job.
That's why when someone asks "What's the rush?" they mean that they should slow
down, right?
Right.
Another way to say that is "Take your time." That means you can spend as long as
you want working on whatever you're doing.
You don't need to hurry.
Yeah. I have been told that before.
Me too.
There's also a saying: Fools rush in where angels fear to tread.
It means that someone who is inexperienced to get stuck in situations that
someone wiser would have avoided.
Sometimes we just say "fools rush in" for short.
Can you give me an example of how someone would use it?
Sure.
When I started working here, someone asked me about a missing book.
I promised him I'd find it.
But after looking for hours, I never did.
I guess I was the fool that rushed in that time.
So if you'd had more experience, you wouldn't have made that promise.
Exactly.
Well, I hope your niece doesn't rush into a bad decision here.
Me too, Ken.