节目资讯
刊物:空中英語教室
日期:2012-02-04
难易度:Low
关键字:commit, reveal, stand up for somebody, concentrate, suicide, behavior
Welcome back, friends.
So why do people bully?
Well, most of the time it's because they want attention or control or respect.
But ironically, they end up... losing that control later on.
Most of the time, one out of four bullies end up becoming criminals by the age
of 30.
And the majority of them end up developing drug problems as well.
It sounds like they're not always in control.
OK, let's pick up our reading on page 17, line 10.
The Dangers of Bullying.
Do you hit them, insult them or laugh when others make fun of them?
Even those who look, speak or act different deserve respect, so consider their
feelings.
If you are being bullied, don't be afraid to tell an adult.
That person may be able to stop the bullying without revealing who told him or
her.
Remember that the things others say and do are not your fault.
Find friends who encourage and stand up for you.
Don't give up - many people have faced similar experiences.
They care about you and want to help.
OK, friends.
Now before we get started looking at this section of the article, Kaylah, I
asked you a very difficult question right before the break.
And you said that yeah, you had been a bully before.
Would you like to say some more?
OK. Well, I know I never beat anybody up, I never hit anybody.
But we saw in our article that that's not the only way of bullying somebody.
Now for me, and I know most girls, if we are honest, we talk about people behind
their backs.
Now I know everyone does this, but girls, we do it very often.
Now that's called "gossip." And that is a form of bullying.
You need to be kind to people and treat them in a nice way.
We don't need to be mean.
And that's how I was a bully, Ryan.
I was mean to people, or really, just a couple of people in my life, and I
talked about people behind their backs.
The good thing is I realized it now and that's not how I treat people.
OK. Now Kaylah, I was actually a bully once before, but like you see now, we are
not bullies anymore.
People can still change.
And so if you are a bully, it's not too late.
But there're still some things to think about to find out whether or not you are
a bully.
OK. So if we're looking at deciding, "Oh, am I a bully? Am I treating people
OK?" think about these questions:
Have you ever hit somebody?
Do you insult them or laugh at them when others are making fun of them?
Each one of those is a form of bullying.
Now Ryan, we both have said we were bullies and we both have been bullied.
So this is an example that it just really is a problem all over, but there's
always room for change.
There's always hope for a better future.
Yes, exactly. This does happen a lot.
But you can change and you can also make a change in other people's lives.
So think about this: Even those people who look, speak or act different still
deserve respect.
So consider their feelings.
Think about how they would feel.
Imagine if you were them, would you want people to say the things about you?
You probably look different to them, and you sound different from them.
It's OK.
We all have differences, but we cannot make fun of and hurt people because of
them.
Exactly. You need to be OK with your own differences and the differences of
others.
Now if you are being bullied yourself, don't be afraid to tell an adult.
That's right. This is really important.
I know a lot of students are being bullied and are afraid to talk to an adult.
Even right now maybe you're sitting there listening, thinking maybe I should say
something.
The answer is yes.
Tell an adult.
Don't live in fear of the people around you.
Get someone to help you.
Now Kaylah, this was actually my problem.
When I was being bullied, I was afraid to tell someone because I thought it
would make me seem even more weak than the bully said I was.
That's right.
Or you could even think that the bully might attack... hurt you more.
That's not the case.
When a person is able to help you, they're able to... help stop the bullying.
You should... you should speak up.
Exactly. Now that person might be able to stop it without revealing who told
them, which means they would not... would not tell who actually gave them that
information.
That's right. When we "reveal" something, that means we show something, we bring
it out so everyone can see it.
So they "could not reveal." That means they could keep it hidden who told them.
Exactly. So they cannot let the bully know that it was you who told them, which,
Kaylah, would be much better.
That's right. It can protect you and can stop the bullying all the same time.
Now remember that the things that others say and do are not your fault.
Exactly. These things are not because of anything you did.
The word "fault" is referring to something that you did wrong.
Now of course, you didn't do anything wrong if you are being bullied.
But you need to think about why people are bullying you.
But remember that you are you, and that's OK.
You need to find friends who can encourage you and stand up for you.
You need to surround yourself with encouraging people because you are worth it.
Yes. Now we all want people to stand up for us so that we don't always have to
stand up for ourselves.
That phrase, "stand up for," means to defend or to protect someone.
That's right. Or it can even mean to support someone.
So Ryan, if you're at school and you're being bullied, someone is sitting there
pointing at you and laughing at you and making fun of you,
if you have a friend who comes up and says, "Hey, stop that. Now they're not...
that's not what they meant.
That's not what they need. You need to leave them alone," you know, that is
someone who would stand up for you.
Yeah, someone who supports you, reminds you that it doesn't matter what other
people think.
Of course, don't give up - many people have faced similar experiences.
Now I hope that Ryan and I sharing our stories of being bullied and having been
a bully can help you realize that these experiences are kind of all around us.
And it's not a bad thing to share them.
Talk about them.
Talk to an adult because a lot of us have experienced it as well and they may be
able to offer some advice.
Yes. And these people care about you and they want to help you.
This, as we learned yesterday, is a problem all around the world and many people
have experienced it.
They want to make sure you are OK too.
So friends, speak up. Be the difference.
Stand up for yourself.
Stand up for your friends and think about the way you treat people even if you
don't like them.
I hope you've learned a lot about bullying and we've encouraged you to be a
better person.
Let's see today's skit.
Stop bullying me.
Stop bullying me.
It's OK. I'm just having a little fun.
Well, it's not fun for me.
Bullying does serious damage.
Serious damage?
Yes! My grades are dropping.
I'm skipping classes.
I can't concentrate.
So what?
I have stress and depression.
So what are you trying to say?
Stop bullying me.
Do you think I'm going to stop because you tell me to?
Well, it works more than half the time.
So, please stop.
I don't think so.
That sounds like a no.
Hmm.
Hey, bully, consider your behavior.
You hit me and insult me and laugh.
That's because you're different.
Yes, but consider my feelings.
I deserve respect.
And if you don't stop bullying me, I'm going to tell.
Oh, really? Who are you going to tell?
I'm going to tell someone who has faced similar experiences, someone who will
stand up for me.
Oh, I'm so scared.
He's my brother.
Oh, yeah?
My big brother.
Oh, no.
Bullying really is dangerous.
(Music).
(Chinese).
And we're running out of time.
I'll see you next time. Bye-bye.
Thank you very much, Michelle, for those helpful tips.
So friends, what should you do if you see someone being bullied?
First, don't join in.
If you feel safe, tell the bully to stop.
Right. If you don't feel safe, though, leave and get others to join you.
Later, support the person being bullied and perhaps together you can go to an
adult you trust who can help solve the problem.
Yes. Now if anyone has ever called you a bully, make it right and stop.
If you need help, get it.
Bullying is an ugly behavior that you definitely don't want to carry with you
into adulthood.
OK, everyone, have a great weekend.
And then join us on Monday for a brand new lesson.
Have a great day.