节目资讯
刊物:空中英语教室
日期:2012-01-24
难易度:High
关键字:dwell, grounded, trigger, at play, rumination, set off
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Hi, everybody.
Welcome to Studio Classroom Worldwide.
Thanks for joining us.
My name is Steve.
And I'm happy again to have Kaylah and Linda with us in the studio.
Welcome, you two.
Thank you, Steve.
It's great to be here.
But I'm excited to have Linda here with us as well today.
Well, thank you.
It's always a privilege to be in the studio with you guys.
And today we have a very informative and interesting BUSINESS article to tell
you about.
Say, do you guys ever worry about work?
Sure. Sometimes I do.
How about you, Steve?
Well, I have to confess, I do too.
But I think most people do, right?
I think so too.
So I think that this is a very relevant topic for us to talk about.
And I agree that most people probably worry about work now and then.
But this article really discusses the Worry Trap.
You mean when you can't help but worrying?
Right. So this article is going to talk about patterns in our work life that
cause us to worry, and is going to give us some tips on how to deal with that.
Well, I think that's great, Linda, because I think people feel a lot of pressure
at work these days.
You know, I agree with you.
And then we go home and wonder:
Did I say something? What I... what did I say or what did I do? Was it right or
was it wrong?
Yeah, I think... you know, I think I do that sometimes.
Well, I think it's, you know, it's pretty normal.
But our article is going to help us identify if we actually do do this and how
much we do it.
Probably everyone experiences that at some time or another.
But are we trapped by it?
And can we find out what causes this behavior?
And we're also going to find out about tips, about how to relax and control that
so that... so that our worry doesn't trap us into a certain pattern of behavior.
OK. Thanks, Linda.
So stay with us, everyone.
Kaylah and Ryan will be right back with some tips telling you more about how to
avoid the worry trap.
Avoid the Worry Trap at Work.
Learn some tips that can help break the pattern of worry.
QUESTION: I'm a worrier.
I dwell on what might happen, for example, at a meeting, and then revisit what
did happen over and over.
I know this isn't productive, but I can't seem to stop it.
This mostly happens at work; it's not as big a deal at home. Suggestions?
ANSWER: Remaining grounded in the present moment leads to greater contentment
and productivity.
It's easy to get caught in a rumination cycle.
Before an experience, there are so many unknowns to consider, and after, so many
"if only" possibilities.
Hello there, friends.
Thank you so much for joining us.
My name is Ryan.
And my name is Kaylah.
Friends, do you ever worry about your work, your job or school?
Yes. If you do worry at your job, then it's important to find ways to avoid that
worry.
And so that's why this article is called Avoid the Worry Trap at Work.
That's right.
Sometimes we do worry, but what's important is to avoid the worry trap.
And when we say that, it means when you are stuck thinking about it all the
time,
when you all... all you do is worry instead of enjoying your work or doing well
at your work.
You waste your time worrying.
So how do you avoid that?
Well, we're going to learn some tips that help break the pattern of worry.
And that's true, Kaylah, it is a pattern.
That's right. A pattern means something that repeats itself again and again.
OK. Now we start off with a question.
This could be you asking this question if you say: I'm a worrier.
I dwell on what might happen, for example, at a meeting, and then revisit what
did happen over and over.
Now I think all of us are guilty of this at some point in time, but some of us
do worry a lot more than we should.
We sit and dwell on it.
Exactly. If you're "dwelling" on something, it means you're thinking about one
thing over and over for a long time.
And so especially, Kaylah, after a meeting, you might spend a lot of time
thinking about something.
And that would cause you to worry.
Now I know this isn't productive, but I can't seem to stop it.
Right. So he said obviously worrying, it's not productive.
That means it's not helping anything, but he can't stop it.
It's a habbit.
This mostly happens at work; it's not as big a deal at home.
Do you have any suggestions?
So this is a question as if you wrote in to a magazine and asked a writer to
help you.
Right. So in answer to this question is to remain grounded in the present
moment; and that leads to greater contentment and productivity.
That's right.
When you are "grounded," that means you are very focused.
You are aware.
You have good judgment.
I hope you are a grounded person not only at work when you are talking about
being worried, but grounded in life.
Yeah, you want to make sure that you are aware in life.
And also, you want to have contentment in life too, which means that you are
happy with what you have and where you are at.
Well, it's easy to get caught in a rumination cycle.
Right. "Rumination" means you're thinking carefully about something for a long
time, perhaps you would be dwelling on something.
That's right. When you dwell, I think the difference... maybe there's a little
bit of difference.
"Dwell" would be thinking about it in a negative way at something you couldn't
change.
And "ruminating" on it would be thinking about it as a positive way, kind of a
little bit different,
hopefully coming up with a new idea that could probably fix it.
But this can also be a cycle.
Exactly. A cycle is something that happens over and over again.
Just like how there are weather cycles, there might be summer, spring, fall and
winter.
It continues to go around and around.
So Ryan, what would be the difference between a pattern and a cycle then?
Well, a cycle continues in the same order every time. A pattern might have
different numbers to it.
OK, so it's a little bit different, but they create the same problem.
You sit and dwell and ruminate and make yourself even more worried because of a
problem that, well, is in the past.
Exactly.
Now before an experience, there are so many unknowns to consider, and after, so
many "if only" possibilities.
Now we are talking about a situation or a problem that happened in the past, so
we know we can't travel back in time and fix it.
So you're getting into these "if only" possibilities.
Right. "If only" is a phrase you might say if you wish that you had done
something else.
You might say: if only I had been there on time, or if only I had written that
report.
That's right; if only I was on time, if only I went to class at the right time.
You cannot change these things.
They're "if only" situations.
Right. These are unknows.
You do not know what could have happened, and so it's important to not get stuck
thinking about those.
You can't change it, so it's time that you move on and work through the
situations now, not wishing you could change them in the past.
Well, let's go to the Chat Room.
Oh. That's too bad.
But don't worry, Tony.
I'm sure you'll find something else.
Look, you need to stop focusing on these "if only" possibilities and try to work
with what did happen.
Good luck, Tony.
Bye, now.
Bryan, it sounds like whoever you were just talking to was having a bad day.
Yeah, my friend Tony. He's looking for a job.
And well, his last interview went really badly.
Oh. That's too bad.
But if he keeps looking, I'm sure he'll find something eventually.
That's what I told him.
He was still really upset, though.
Hey, Bryan, I heard you mentioned "if only" possibilities just now.
Can you explain what that phrase means?
Sure.
When you wish something had happened differently, you usually start the sentence
with "if only." So something good that might have happened but didn't is an "if
only" possibility.
So if I get lost when I'm going somewhere, I could say, "if only I had turned
right instead of left," and turning right would be an "if only" possibility?
That's right.
We do something similar when we talk about "what if" ideas.
"What if" ideas?
Are they ideas that you get by asking questions that start with "what if"?
That's right, Ken.
It's not a common phrase in everyday life.
But writers use it a lot when they're looking for inspiration.
OK. That makes sense.
It's kind of similar to "either/or" choices that people talk about, right?
Yes. An "either/or" choice is when someone can choose one option or the other
but not both.
So if you're traveling and you can only find two restaurants, you might have an
"either/or" choice of where to eat.
OK. That makes sense.
Well, I hope that Tony stops worrying about the "if only" possibilities and
finds a job soon.
Yeah, me too.